7件离婚家庭的孩子永远不会告诉你的事.

　　来自离异家庭的子女经过一定的努力只有他们能理解,现在这里有一些我们隐藏的和不能与他人分享的事情。

　　Children from divorced homes go through certain struggles only they can understand. We have been through a major breaking point where we saw the two people we care about leave us bore we could get the best out of them. Now here are some things we bottle up and we cannot share with others.

　　来自离异家庭的子女经过一定的努力只有他们能理解。我们已经通过了主要断裂点,我们看到了两个我们在乎的人离开我们在我们可以得到最好的之前。现在这里有一些我们隐藏的和不能与他人分享的事情。

　　1. We build walls around ourselves

　　我们在自己周围建造了墙

　　We have been there bore. We don’t want to see people leave the way our parents did. We want to be secure. We want to be safe. And so we build walls around ourselves to protect us from persons who could repeat that period of leaving us and finding a new direction.

　　我们已经去过那里了。我们不想看到人们像我们的父母那样离开。我们想要安全。我们希望是安全的。所以我们自己建造了这堵墙来保护我们免受人重复这段事情让我们找到了一个新的方向。

　　2. We can be over attached to our items

　　我们附属于我们的东西

　　Perhaps this is our only security. When our parents divorced, items were divided among the two of them. So we know how important items can be and we always want to have a hold on what we have got.

　　也许这是我们唯一的安全。当我们的父母离异时,物品被分给他们两个。所以我们知道这是何等重要的我们总是想要留住的东西。

　　3. We prer one parent over the other

　　我们愿意在另一方

　　As much as we do not want to have a prerence between our parents there is always who meet our demands and we can relate better with. Although we are not really vocal about it, as you become intimate with us you will find out that we do prer one parent over the other.

　　我们不想有很多偏好在我们的父母总是满足我们的要求之间,我们可以更好的联系。虽然我们这并不是我们真正的声音,当你与我们成为亲密的朋友时你会发现,我们更喜欢父母中的另一个。

　　4. We are afraid of commitment

　　我们害怕承诺

　　Although at some point we will have to see reason with committing ourselves to someone, yet commitment is something that marvels us. We do not want what happened to our parents to repeat itself with us.

　　尽管在某种程度上我们会看到为别人承诺的理由,但我们的承诺是奇迹。我们不希望父母的事在我们身上重演。

　　5. We do not like cheaters

　　我们不喜欢骗子

　　This feeling pops in if one of our parents was cheating on the other and this was what caused the divorce. We want to uphold the value of being responsible to the relationships we are into. We hate cheaters and do not want to be involved with them.

　　这种感觉出现在如果我们父母的一人骗了另一个而导致了离婚。我们要为的我们关系坚持负责任。我们讨厌骗子,不想卷入他们。

　　6. We are overly critical

　　我们过于重要

　　We ask questions a lot. It is difficult to trust others and think anyone can be truly faithful. We give meanings too rather flimsy and lesser important things and translate them the way we want to.

　　我们问很多问题,很难相信别人,认为任何人都不会真正的忠诚。我们也给了脆弱的含义, 把重要的事情和转换成我们想要的方式。

　　7. We appreciate communication

　　我们感谢沟通

　　We didn’t receive constant communication as our parents didn’t even have the best of communications between themselves. We love to receive the news first and be offered every detail of the matter. Any short sentences as “It is okay” or “I will be fine” puts us immediately on the spot. We value honesty and cherish openness as it

　　没有收到信息因为我们的父母甚至没有好好的沟通。我们先来接收消息,提供每一个细节。任何短句子“这是好的”或者“我会好好的”使我们如在现场。我们重视诚实和珍惜打开心扉。