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You want to be happy, who doesn’t? However, you might engage in unhelpful behaviors that thwart your success. Whether you procrastinate, feed negative self-talk, or don’t rest your mind, you lower your potential to create happiness.
你想快乐,有谁不想呢?然而,你可能在进行一些阻碍你成功的不良行为。不管是拖延、消极的自我对话,或是不让大脑休息,这些都会降低你获得幸福的潜能。
Procrastination
拖延
Putting off mowing the lawn, or not writing a letter, may not seem like a big deal, but every time you don’t carry out tasks you think you should complete, you ignite a mild fight or flight response. Fight or flight happens when you face stress, and, although it exists to aid survival, it isn’t always a helpful response. You aren’t in mortal danger if you procrastinate, but your system doesn’t always take this information onboard. You still react as though you are anxious and produce stress chemicals. Additionally, as your system constricts physically, your mind also closes off a little. Just as your muscles tighten when you are anxious, your ability to see the big picture of life is reduced when you procrastinate, so, you don’t see as much joy
该修剪的草坪一直没剪,或者是一封信总是没有写,看起来都不是什么大事,但是每一次你没有做完你应当完成的工作,你就燃起了一场微弱的斗争或是内心的逃避。当你面对压力时斗争或者逃避就会出现。尽管它的存在是为了帮助生存,但它并不总是积极正面的响应。当拖延时,你并不会有生命危险,然而你的身体系统却不会总是认真考虑这件事。你仍然看起来很紧张,并产生了压力性化学物质。此外,由于你的身体总是处于紧张状态,你的大脑也多少会受到影响。当你压力很大时你的肌肉会收紧,当你拖延时你规划生活的能力会降低,所以,你就感受不到太多的快乐。
Negative self-talk
消极的自我对话
Self-talk is a barometer, telling you how healthy you are emotionally. Taking notice of what goes on in your head, and putting positive change in action, makes negative self-talk usul. Nonetheless, most people don’t recognize negative self-talk as a pointer, they feed it until it grows out of control.
自我对话是一个晴雨表,能判断出你的心理有多健康。注意你的脑子里正在想着什么,并且在行为上做出积极的转变,让消极的自我对话变得有用。然而,大多数人并未意识到消极的自我对话可以作为一个指针,他们不停的塞满它,直到失控。
Not resting your mind.
不让大脑休息
Your mind contains an incredible amount of information and is more powerful than any computer many times over. However, if you give it too many tasks, you shut out peace of mind. Thinking about many things at once generates a feeling of anxiety. Thought-overload results in physical symptoms, like a racing heart and shortness of breath. Additionally, you might have insomnia, digestive problems, and other symptoms of stress that reduce your happiness.
你的大脑可容纳的信息量多到不可思议,比任何的电脑都要强大许多倍。然而,如果你给它了太多任务,它就一直得不到休息。一次思考太多的事情会造成情绪的紧张。过度思考会导致身体出现一些症状,比如心跳加快、呼吸急促。此外,可能还会产生失眠、消化问题以及其他一些应激症状,降低你的幸福感。
If you want to increase the odds of being happy, don’t procrastinate, complete jobs and you’ll feel less pressure. At the same time, don’t feed negative self-talk. Note what your inner voice tells you then watch it fade. Similarly, don’t overload your mind, give it a rest and you will soon notice you are happier.
如果你想提升幸福感,不要拖延,及时完成工作,你会觉得压力小了很多。同时,不要总进行消极的自我对话,关注你内心的声音,并监控它直到消失。同样,不要让大脑超负荷运转,让它得到适当的休息,很快你就会感到自己更幸福了。
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