Thank you for your smile!

3000的经历，其实我也无憾了，当然，我说的是对这次签证本身来说，该说的话，想说 [b]的话，都说的差不多了。但是，最终没有成功，还是很不甘心的。本来，我们想念书的，就 [b]该把精力放在专业上，学业上，现在却变成了，大量的时间、精力，甚至感情耗在了申请和 [b]签证上，真的是很荒谬！但这就是现实，我们无力改变。唉，倒在最后一关前，不知道自己 [b]是不是该认命。 [b][b] 说说经过吧。不过这次的签经很难写，因为整个过程根本不是她问一句，我答一句，却 [b]是我说一大段，她说一大段。所以双方的原话都记得有点模糊了，只能有些地方写英文，有 [b]些地方就直接写中文意思了。 [b][b] 我遇到的是短JFMM，非常情绪化，耐心也不够。甚至看到她有抱着头对签证的人叫“我 [b]不要听我不要听！”的情况出现，真是FT！不过，她虽然胖乎乎的，但其实长的挺可爱的， [b]有点象洋娃娃的感觉。 [b][b]M: Good morning madam! This is the third time I have seen you, but the [b]first time have talked to you! Nice to meet you, anyway. [b]V: 笑了一下。Nice to meet you too. Yes, as you have said this is the third [b]time to have interview, so I want to know some change! You know, I want to [b]hear the “change”! [b]M: Yes! I do have something very important to tell you^ [b]V: No! I don’t care about the important things, I want to know the [b]changes! [b]M: Yes, it is a change! Please let me finish my words. [b]V: OK. [b]M: The sevis only show my first year program, but in fact, I will take a [b]combine program for two years, called ME/MBA. First year I will major on [b]EE, just like my undergraduate major. And the second year, I will move to [b]the Business School to take MBA program. But the I-20 only shows the first [b]year major, because the sevis only allow the university put one degree and [b]one department into it one time, and the secretary sent me an email to [b]explain the situation, would you like to see it? And would you like to see [b]the instruction of this program?（把小秘的信包括介绍塞给VO）And would you [b]like to see my admission letter from these two schools? (把录取信，两封，都给 [b]她，不过她没看，我管自己说下去) This program is based on the engineering [b]study, and for the engineering students to have chances to study the [b]management skills and communication skills, and help them to be a project- [b]manager in the future career. I have taken telephone interview with the [b]professors in Business School. They are very satisfied with my [b]qualification and former experience. Otherwise I can’t get their offer. [b]And you know, I have worked for 1 year, during this time, I find in china, [b]there is few people can combine both the engineering and management [b]knowledge, and few good project-manager. But this kind of professionals are [b]very needed and very hot in the human resouce market. So if I get two [b]degrees and return to china, I will have much space to develop. [b](好象是说到这里，她打断我了，不过，我一口气也说了不少了。 ) [b]V: Madam, you make your situation worse! You know what, the first time, the [b]visa officer thought you have no sufficient money. But this time you said [b]this program is for 2 years, it’s longer time, so you should pay even much [b]more! So, I should view your bank certification angin! [b][b] 其实正中我下怀。我的资金证明，父母的收入证明，包括房产证都是无懈可击的。第一 [b]次的小GB绝对是借口罢了。而且，自从那次以后，我就把父母的收入证明开成了5年，而且把 [b]存款证明也多带了不少。 VO大致看了一下银行的存款证明,问：Where are they from? [b]M: They are from my parents! And these are their income certification.递上收 [b]入证明，不过她没看。 [b]V: But this money is not more than one year! [b] 我FT，这个VO开始说瞎话了，上面的存款有好多笔，有99年的，2001年的，2002年的， [b]当然，2003年的也有。现在的利息那么低，谁存那么久啊！ [b]M：Oh, It is more than one year.然后我就指出，就她手上拿的那张美圆的证明，就有 [b]着第一次存的存根，是2001年1月存的。而且，我告诉她，2001年1月存的，2003年1月再续 [b]存的。在这张下面的一张上，有99年的，2001年的等等。全跟她解释了！这些原话我忘记 [b]了，但就这些意思。 [b]V：不吭声，也找不茬来。 [b]M: And I also bring the house property certification. [b]V:（不看！）This house is your parents’, but not yours! [b]M: But my financial support is from my parents, so I can certify we can [b]afford the study. [b]V: 想了想，不说话。不过马上说, But you pay so much money, the second time, [b]the vo did’t think you will come back. [b]M: But this program is a very good preparation for me to be a project- [b]manager in the future in China. And in fact, go to USA cost less than in [b]China! In china, if I want to pursue both the engineering and MBA degree, I [b]will take at least 5 years to study at university, and pay for 5 years [b]study but get no pay during that time. But in America, I can finish my [b]study in 2 years, then come back China to find a good job, and earn back [b]the money in 3 years. So, the same 5 years, study in USA is a better choice [b]for me, and cost less. [b]V: But***** is a big amount of money, there will be a little chance you [b]will come back! So, I have to ruse you. [b]M: That’s not surprise me! I have applied for 3 times, so I know what you [b]have said is just a pretext!!! [b]V: I can tell you the reason. A, you have no enough money…… [b]M: How can you say that? You have seen my financial certificate, it is [b]enough!!! Don’t tell me the pretext, I know your true reason. [b]这下我和VO僵持不下，都争着要说话，都不肯松口。短JFMM有点急了，放慢语速，说： [b]Please listen to me carully, I will tell you the reason! Ok? Otherwise, [b]the interview is over! [b]我笑笑，说：OK! I will listen to you! Please! [b]V: 这下她不说钱不够了。This amount of money is very big, you pay so much, [b]you won’t come back! [b]M: But I can tell you the graduate plan, and…… [b]V: No…… [b]M: Do you mean only the students get full scholarship can get the visa? You [b]shouldn't just care about who pays the money! It’s not fair!!! And I know [b]some people should even pay much more than me, but you give them the visas, [b]why? [b]V: 耸耸肩。Everyone has different situation, maybe they work for many [b]years, but you just work for one year. [b]M: But my parents pay for my fee…… [b]V：还是耸肩，说你付了那么多钱，你一定想在美国赚回来。然后还跟我说，不用来再申请 [b]了，否则申请几次句几次。还说，你知道你为什么被句那么多次吗，就是因为什么什么的， [b]就把前面的话又说了一遍。 [b][b] 然后，还很“诚恳”的跟我说，她今天已经面试了32个人了，我是时间最长的一个，她 [b]已经给了我很多最长时间陈述了。而且，她非常仔细认真的审核了我的材料，很遗憾，要句 [b]我。 [b][b] 我也懒得再说了，就跟她笑笑，说: That is ok! I will apply angin when I get [b]the full scholarship. Thank you, have a nice day. [b][b] 然后就收拾东西，这时候，短JFMM突然抬起头来，微笑了一下，说: And Thank you [b]for your smile! [b][b] 这句话倒让我有点意外了，我原来还觉得遗憾没说一句话：Just because I pay [b]much, so I will work in a place I have much space to develop. It is in [b]China! 现在看来，说不说都一样了，不是我发挥的问题了！ [b][b] 现在想起来，失败的伏笔在1000的时候，小GB是存心句的，而且他句的理由，根本是睁 [b]眼说瞎话，说我钱不够，其实是够的，只是他的借口。我了解过，在他手下面试的自费的， [b]几乎全是这个理由。似乎他对自费的有很大的偏见，经常是不问plan，直接就句了！而且， [b]也正因为他没问PLAN，所以拘牵理由上，他只能写资金不够。而第二次，VO可能不满意我的 [b]归国计划，就认为是移民倾向。这下，我等于是把考察F1的两条拘牵准则，全给占了：1，钱 [b]不够；2，移民倾向。暂且不去说第2，那个1，压根就是瞎说的。非常冤枉！ [b][b] 而且，他这样一来，给后面的面试造成了很坏的影响。不是短JFMM主动说出前两次的拘 [b]牵理由，我还真不知道小GB居然真的就在我的DS表上的拘牵理由上写资金问题了。怪不得 [b]BTBOY也就不看资金证明了，因为一般来说，他们是默认前一个VO是正确的，是真实的。小GB [b]这么一来，把后面VO的注意力全引向了钱的问题，给他们造成一个先入为住的印象——钱不 [b]够！ [b][b] 而当短JFMM发现我的钱应该是够的时候，她还是会承认前面VO的话是真的，就会怀疑我 [b]的资金来源等等。这简直是个悖论——如果你的钱还不够，那就肯定不能给VISA了，但如果 [b]你的钱够了话，他们有觉得怎么上次不够，这次那么快就多了那么多钱了。他们是不太会去 [b]怀疑前面的VO工作的问题。 [b][b] 从这里，我也可以知道，总的来说，我自己准备的策略，没有大问题。第一次没有主动说 [b]第二年的课程是对，否则更让小GB认定没有钱了。第三次的时候主动说这个课程，起码让VO [b]觉得是个不一样的地方，也引她再看了看资金证明。否则，她还是会象BTBOY那样，省略掉看 [b]资金证明的这个工作，直接默认小GB的话。 [b][b] 另外，我觉得1000以后，的确是要主动。而且，短JFMM对我今天的确算NICE了，起码给 [b]了我那么多时间说话。其实后面的大部分时间，都是我们两个相持不下，都抢着要说，或者 [b]同时说，噼里啪啦的。虽然我亮出第二年的课程，在短JFMM看来是更糟糕，但糟糕的是资金 [b]的问题，是小GB造成的资金误会。如果，1000的时候碰的不是小GB，也许资金这一项就OK [b]了。起码，我不会把拘牵的两类理由全占掉，而且，也不会让VO一次次把注意力都放在我的 [b]资金问题上。钱够了，还怀疑一下来源。 [b][b] 真的，如果1000的时候，碰到的就是短JFMM，也许情况也会好很多，因为其实，我从她 [b]的话和表情来看，她的确也找不出我太大的毛病，只是我已经被句两次，她也找不到我太大 [b]的变化，足以把前两次全推翻！因为要把前两次都推翻，的确是要很负一定责任的，要找的 [b]出特别特别利于我的理由，这个对我来说，的确也难了。 [b][b] 2000后，我看到一句话，说是全奖的，VO只是找你的茬，找不到的话，就放过了，而自 [b]费的，就是要找亮点，如果没有亮点，就不给过。这话非常有道理。其实对于上海的VO来 [b]说，全奖的，基本是签之前就倾向放过了，而自费就难说，绝对要靠运气了，或者就是真的 [b]有什么特别的亮点。特别对于女生来说，这个性别本身就比男生更具有移民的倾向，难度就 [b]更高一点。 [b][b] 3000结束，短JFMM能跟我说那么一句Thank you for your smile，我就知道，虽然我 [b]跟她argue了半天，但总的来说，她对我本人表现的印象还是可以的，虽然最后还是句掉，但 [b]3000的本身，对于VO来说，就比其他的更倾向句了，能做到这一步，我觉得自己的发挥已经 [b]可以了。可惜，这是3000，如果是1000的话，也会好很多。所以，能给以后XDJM们借鉴的， [b]就是，要主动出击，亮出自己不一样的东西！另外，就是祈祷不要碰到小GB！立即咨询