美国研究生申请如何找人要推荐信?.

　　在现实当中，向他人求一封推荐信远比电影里演的困难。求推荐信的人因此经常胜出许多焦虑，找谁要?怎样要?开口说什么?其实，拿到一封出色的推荐信完全可以在你的掌控之内，没有你想象得那么难，即便你不是富二代，即便你没有家庭给学校雄厚的捐款做支撑。

　　下面给大家传授三个技巧，确保你的导师、前任老板、或者学术顾问给你写一封赞扬信。

　　1.强调他们的资质

　　2.提供样板

　　3.不插手过问

　　下面对每项技巧进行详细分析：

　　强调他们的资质

　　当你问人要推荐信时，一开始你应先表明你非常看重他(她)的评价，非常尊重他们作为专业人士给出的意见，所以才选择他们作为自己的担保人，担保自己会在接下来的专业领域里努力。

　　除了抬举推荐人，你还应该给出解释，你为什么认定推荐人具备独一无二的资格来给你作评价，给你做引荐。你为什么喜欢与他们(引荐人)共事?你为什么那么在乎他们的评价?你如何敬仰他们?他们的资质是怎样适合给你写推荐或与自己将来的权威导师对话。

　　提供样板

　　如果你没有提供推荐信样板给引荐人，让他们写出好好推荐信的几率很低。况且这也是不经过思考的做法。人们最不愿意做的就是花好几个小时甚至好几天来给你构思一份你本来自己都可以写得更好的推荐信初稿。

　　所以，向你的推荐人提供样本——可以是推荐信的大纲、要涵盖的关键点、或者是写好的初等任何你想在推荐信上展现的内容——是向人要推荐信的最有效途径(而且这也显示了你考虑过周到、为人体贴)。

　　不插手过问

　　最后，样本给了推荐人，且让推荐人明白这样做是为了尽力减轻他们的工作，然后，是时候“交出政权”采取“不插手过问”的政策了。首先，给你的推荐人充分的自主选择权，他们可以无条件地拒绝你;其次，假设推荐人同意给你写推荐信，给他们足够的空间，修改编辑你的样本。你可以表达你对他们的信任，让他们以自己的方式来修改推荐信。

　　下面举例展示一下以上三点具体如何操作：

　　Highlight their Qualifications

　　Dear John,

　　Hello, I hope you are well. I am writing to ask a huge favor — I&aposm applying for a senior marketing position with Merck and I was hoping you&aposd consider writing a letter of recommendation on my behalf. I always appreciated your perspective and judgment while working together. You have so much credibility within the product development space that I thought you&aposd be a perfect person to act as a rerence.

　　Provide a Template

　　I have included a list of bullet points along with a draft letter you might consider using as a template. I&aposd like to make the process as easy as possible on you and I know it&aposs hard to recall details about the many different projects we worked on together in 2007 and 2008.

　　"No Questions Asked"

　　If for any reason you don&apost feel comfortable writing a letter on my behalf, I completely understand. If you are willing to do so, however, please feel free to take the attached sample letter and use it as a template however you see fit. I have tried to address my core strengths as a strategic thinker and team player and I have highlighted several marketing campaigns I&aposm particularly proud of. To the extent that you&aposd like to make any changes or modifications to the letter, please go ahead and do so. I trust that you&aposll include only those topics you feel comfortable commenting upon.

　　Further, I would welcome the opportunity to see a copy of the letter, but I of course understand your position if you&aposd like to keep it confidential.

　　Finally, finish your request with all the grace and charm you can muster — thank the other person profusely for their time and help and offer to make yourself available for any further questions he may have.

　　Stay tuned for next week&aposs post on how to write that template and make your rerence letter stand out from the pack.