20条快乐法则 这才是哈佛真正赋予我们的精神力量

摘要：世界闻名的哈佛大学在成立之初的一百多年间，其实是一所神学院，专门培养美国的牧师，而事实上，哈佛本人就是一名牧师，哈佛大学最初的十几任校长也都是牧师。所以在每一年哈佛大学的毕业典礼上，都会有学生诵读一篇很少有人听得懂的拉丁文。

哈佛的历史传统决定了她培养学生的宗旨和方向，即培养具有殉道精神的真理追求者，而绝非名利的追逐者。哈佛提倡的是服务社会、奉献社会、帮助社会，所以真正接受哈佛教育精髓的学子们，通常在毕业后都会选择一些非营利性机构，从事一些对社会有意义的工作，比如他们会选择参军，抑会选择去非洲当义工等。

这样的一所学校所能传递给我们的正能量实在是无可匹敌的，诚然，不可能每个人都具有去哈佛求学的资格和机会，但纵然无缘成为“哈佛人”，亦要知道哈佛赋予这个世界的智慧，这就是哈佛告诉世人的“20个快乐法则”!

1. Be gratul 学会感恩

Slow down,look around you,and pay attention to the little details

in your life-the delicate purple flower on the sidewalk the beautiful

sunset,the hot shower that washes away your long day,and the smile in your partners eyes......

让自己变慢脚步，看看你的四周，关注生活中的细微之处，人行道上淡紫色的花，美丽的落日，洗去你一天疲惫的淋浴，伴侣眼中的笑容......

2. Choose your friends wisely 明智的选择朋友

According to Harvard, the most important external factors affecting individual happiness are human relationships. So if you want to be happy, choose to be around people who are optimistic, who appreciate you as you are, and who can make your life richer, bigger, more fun, and more meaningful.

哈佛研究表明，影响个人幸福最重要的外部因素是人际关系，所以如果你想变得开心的话，要选择和乐观的朋友在一起，他们能欣赏真实的自己，让你的生活变得更丰富，快乐，有意义。

3. Cultivate compassion 培养同情心

When we try to step into other people’s shoes and understand a situation from another’s perspective, we’re more likely to handle the situation with compassion, objectivity and fectiveness. There will be less conflicts and more happiness.

当我们代替别人，站在另一个角度看问题时，我们更能用同情心，客观和有效的处理问题，这样生活中就会少一些冲突，多一点快乐。

4. Keep learning 不断学习

Learning keeps us young and dreams keep us alive. When we engage our brains and put them toward productive uses, we’re less likely to dwell on unhappy thoughts and much more likely to feel happy and fulfilled.

学习让我们保持年轻，梦想让我们充满活力。我们运用大脑，进行运作的时候，我们就不大会想不开心的事情，我们因此会变得更加开心和满足。

5. Become a problem solver 学会解决问题

Happy people are problem solvers. When they encounter a challenge in life, they don’t beat themselves up and fall into a depressive state. Instead, they face up to the challenge and channel their energies toward finding creative a solution. By becoming a problem solver, you’ll build up your self-confidence and your ability to accomplish whatever it is you set your mind to – and whatever challenges life throws your way.

开心的人是会解决问题的人，在生活中遇到挑战的时候，他们不会自虐，然后变得很消沉，他们会直面挑战，调动全身力量寻找解决办法，通过变成一个解决问题的人，你会建立自己的自信心，无论何时都坚持直面挑战。

6. Do what you love 做你想做的事情

Since we spend over one-third of our adult life working, loving what we do has a huge impact on our overall happiness. If this is not possible at the moment, then try to find enjoyment and meaning in your current work, or cultivate a hobby that involves doing something you love.

既然我们生活的三分之一的时间都在工作，那么做我们想做的事对我们的整体辛福感而言非常重要。如果现在不能做你想做的事情，那就试着在你现在的工作中寻找快乐和意义，或者培养一个你喜爱的兴趣。

7. Live in the present 活在当下

When you feel depressed, you’re living in the past. When you feel worried or anxious, you’re living in the future. But when you feel content, happy and peacul, you’re living in the present.

你感到沮丧，是因为你活在过去，你感到担忧和焦虑，是因为你活在未来，只有当你感到满足，开心和平和时，你才活在当下。

8. Laugh often 要经常笑

Laughter is the most powerful anecdote to anger or depression. Research has shown that the simple act of curving the corners of your mouth can increase your feeling of happiness. So don’t take life too seriously. Try to find humor and laughter in life’s everyday struggles.

笑是对抗生气或沮丧最有力的的东西。研究表明简单的嘴巴上扬也可以增加你的幸福感。不要把生活看的太严肃，要学会在每日的奋斗中寻找幽默感和笑声。

9. Practice forgiveness 学会原谅

Resentment and anger are forms of self-punishment. When you forgive, you’re actually practicing kindness to yourself. And most importantly, learn to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. It’s through our mistakes that we learn and grow to become a bigger and better person.

憎恨和生气是对自我的惩罚。当你释怀的时候，事实上你是在对自己施以善意，最重要的是，学会原谅自己，每个人都犯错，只有通过我们的错误，我们才慢慢学会如何成为一个更强大，更好的人。

10. Say thanks often. 要经常说谢谢

Always be appreciative of the blessings in your life. And it’s equally important to express your appreciation to those who’ve made your life better in some way, big or small.

对生活中的祝福要学会欣赏，对让你生活变好的人，或多或少，请表达出你的欣赏之情，这很重要。

11. Create deeper connections 学会深交

Our happiness multiplies when we connect and bond with another human being on a deeper level. And being fully present and listening are two of the most important skills to strengthening that bond and bringing happiness to ourselves, and to others.

我们的幸福感会在和另一个人的深交中不断猛增，专注聆听是加强这种关系纽带和把幸福感带给自己和别人的两个最重要的方面。

12. Keep your agreement 守承诺

Our self-esteem is built on the agreements we’ve made with ourselves. And high self-esteem has a direct correlation to happiness. So keep your agreements with others and with yourself.

我们的自尊是建立在我们对自己守承诺的情况下的，高度的自尊和幸福感有直接关联，所以要对自己和别人遵守承诺。

13. Meditate 冥想

According to Harvard, people who take 8 sessions of mindfulness meditation training are, on average, 20% happier than a control group. Such training can lead to structural brain changes including increased grey-matter density in the hippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in structures associated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection.

根据哈佛的研究表明，平均上过8次冥想训练的人要比控制狂多开心20%，这样的训练可以导致大脑结构变化，包括海马体黑色物质的密度，其对学习和记忆很重要，在结构上和自我意识，同情心和反省也至关重要。

14. Focus on what you’re doing 关注你在做的事情

When you put your mind, heart and soul into what you’re doing, you’re creating a happiness state – called the “flow.” When you’re living in the flow, you’re less likely to care about what others may think of you, and less bothered by things that are not that important. The result? More happiness, of course!

当你全身心投入一件事的时候，你就会处于一个开心的状态，当我们处于这种状态，你就不大会关心别人对你怎么看，不大会被不太重要的事情干扰。结果呢?更幸福，当然啦!

15. Be optimistic 要乐观

For happy people, the glass is always half-full. If your tendency is to imagine the very worst-case scenario every time you face a challenge, then train yourself to reverse that tendency. Ask yourself what good can come out of the situation or what you can learn from it. Optimism surely fuels success and happiness.

对于开心的人来说，玻璃杯总是不满的，如果当你面对一个挑战时，如果你倾向于作出最坏的想法，那就会自我转换到这种情况。告诉你自己一个良好状况的好处或者你将从中学到的东西，乐观就能驱动你的成功和幸福感。

16. Love unconditionally 无条件的爱

No one is perfect. Accept yourself for all of your imperfections. And do so for others. Loving someone unconditionally does not mean that you need to spend all your time with them or help them figure out their problems. Unconditional love means accepting people as they are, and allowing them to find their own ways, at their own pace.

没人是完美的，接受你自己所有的不完美，也要这样对待别人，无条件的爱并不意味着你要花所有的时间和他们在一起，或者帮助他们解决问题，无条件的爱意味着接受真实的他们，用他们自己的方式，让他们自己摸索。

17. Don’t give up 不要放弃

Unfinished projects and repeated deats inevitably dampen one’s self-esteem. If you’ve made up your mind to do something, see it through. Don’t give up until you succeed. Remember, failure is temporary but deat is permanent. And deat only occurs when you give up.

没有完成的方案和不断的失败不可避免的会削弱你的自尊，如果你决定做某事，做完它，在成功之前都不要放弃，要记住，失败是暂时的，打败的才是永存的，而只有当你放弃的时候，你才会被打败。

18. Do your best and then let go 做最好的自己，然后放手

Everyone has limitations, and things don’t always turn out to be what we’d like them to be – despite our forts. So always give your best, and then let go. Let events run their course. When you’ve done your best, you’ll have no regrets.

每个人都有局限性，而且有时候尽管我们很努力做一件事情，但是总会事与愿违，所以做最好的自己，然后放手，当你尽了全力，你就没有遗憾了。

19. Take care of yourself. 好好照顾自己

A healthy body is the key to happiness. If you have poor health, it’s very difficult to be happy no matter how hard you try. So make sure you eat well, exercise and find time to rest. Take good care of your body, your mind and your spirit.

一个健康的身体是幸福的关键，如果你身体不好，你无论如何努力，都很难快乐。确信自己吃得好，做锻炼，找点时间休息，好好照顾你的身体，大脑和精神。

20. Give back. 学会给予

Doing good is one of the surest ways to feel good. According to Harvard, when people do good, their brains becomes active in the very same reward center that is stimulated when they experience other rewards. So it’s not a surprise that people who care more about others are happier than those who care less about others.

做好事是最能确保你心情好的方法之一。根据哈佛的研究表明，人们做好事，他们的大脑变得活跃，就好像当你经历奖励时，大脑所受的刺激。所以，那些关心别人的人要比不大关心别人的人更开心。